Most people are familiar with Gary D. Chapman’s 5 Love Languages:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
If you are not, I strongly suggest you take the time to learn and understand these as they are a great tool in understanding yourself and your relationships.
But what if there was a 6th Love Language? Could Humor be the 6th Love Language?
Fact: 95% of my matchmaking clients when asked to write a list of the qualities that are looking for in a significant other include a good sense of humor. Why is this? Why is a good sense of humor so important to 95% of my matchmaking clients?
Being on the receiving end of a good sense of humor ensures we always have someone that will bring us up, make us laugh, forget about the problems of the day and feel good. Point being, it makes us feel loved!
Personal Experiences: I remember growing up my grandfather was always trying to make us laugh it was as if it was his job and most of the time he succeeded despite the generational gap. Additionally, my 82 year old father in law is the same way. Not a minute goes by in the time we spend together that I don’t have a smile on my face and a deep belly laugh more often than not! Even my 14-year-old son has the ability to make people laugh and can have a good sense of humor.
In my single days, I find in looking back, the majority of men that I had dated typically had a really great sense of humor. Most importantly, my husband has the most extreme sense of humor and keeps me laughing throughout each and every day. I would say it would probably be his most dominant way of expressing love over the original 5 love languages. Making me laugh and smile makes him feel good and which leads me to assume this is his way of expressing love not to mention, it makes me feel loved.
With all of that being said, I post the question to my colleagues, friends and clients: Is humor the 6th and unwritten love language? Is humor a way that some show their love? Does being the recipient of humor make you feel loved? Or is this just an anomaly in my nearly 20+ years experience of professional experience and 48 years of life experience? Hmmmh… thoughts?